Paint-Assimilate

Paint Assimilate

We can paint a picture in our mind that creates a substandard self-image ourselves.
Believing in an image of attraction that we’ve created in our mind can significantly limit our chance of finding true love, or at least a really good one-night stand.
Once we have set our personal ‘good-looks’ status in our mind we then start to assimilate that perspective on everyone we’d meet. As such, we start to think such things as, “I believe I’m only at a level five of attractiveness, and this person is at least a seven and a half, maybe an eight, so there’s no way they’d be interested in me, so I’m not going to put myself out there to fail.”

And, it goes on like this until you become so insecure about how you look that you end up dating level two minions from hell, which despite all ego aside, even ugly people find unattractive. Or, worse yet, you end up with someone you believe to be a match based on looks and presume this will be the best that you can do.

Damn, that’s sad.

That’s why I love the quote from Abraham Lincoln: “Most folks are about as happy as they make up their minds to be.”

Then, there’s another quote from Dr. Wayne Dyer: “Don’t believe everything you think.”

Why do we do this to ourselves?

Why is hearing ‘no’ so devastating?

Maybe we are just too caught up on the ‘looks’ end of it that we actually start to believe what we Paint and Assimilate and than we never give ourselves the chance.

Perhaps we need to start living up to a higher standard of ourselves that we expect of other people and not invest so much into the ‘looks’ end of things.

In that case, I’m so full of myself that I’ll never find anyone good enough!
(Just be careful not to take anything too far when it come to the way you think; chances are you are not 100% right).